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(5) Songs to get you “In The Mood”

Posted in Dating, Entertainment, Female's, Inspiration, Life, Love, Men, Music, relationships, Sex, women with tags , , , , , , on August 4, 2011 by tokyosparkz

Track 1: In The Middle, Trey Songz

In this song Trey slowly seduces you with his words as he tells you what he wants. All you have to do is close your eyes and let the song work its magic.

Track 2: Slowly, Tank

The slick piano, sharp horns and the passion in Tank’s voice leave very little to the imagination. It’s.about.to. go.down. (Slowly.) This six minute song is full of peaks and valleys so intense it’s almost spiritual. Whether you’re just listening or are following the songs instructions you’ll be spent afterward. Make sure to hydrate.

Track 3: Seems like your ready, R. Kelly

i meannnn… this song really just speaks for itself. Im pretty sure most of us were born to songs like this.

Track 4: Freek’N You, Jodeci

Automatic Babymaker, if you’re not tryna get your freak on… dont even bother playing this song. This is perfect for that nite when you just cant get in the mood.

Track 5: Float, Anthony Hamilton

Listening to the strength of Anthony’s raspy alto, the pulsating bass line and the flawless harmony will have you wondering why your clothes are still on. The song starts slowly, builds climatically and then ends peacefully with instrumentals laced with heavy breathing and chuckling. Sound familiar?

Just.. Watch!

Posted in Art, Design, Female's, Inspiration, Life, Love, Men, relationship, Sex on January 29, 2011 by tokyosparkz

Nine Signs You’re With the Wrong Guy

Posted in Dating, Female's, HELP, iBelieve, Inspiration, Life, Love, Men, relationships, Sex, women on January 21, 2011 by tokyosparkz

Relationships may seem elusive or few and far between. However, there is no reason to stay in a losing situation just to say you aren’t alone. We often time ignore the signs of a bad partner because we don’t want to be alone or because we want something to work that really, well, shouldn’t. If you find any of the signs below in your relationship, chances are…you’re caught up in a ‘bad romance’.

1) He Doesn’t Make You Feel Good: Your partner should make you happy with his presence in your life more often than not.  While even the best couples have bad days, fights and moments of discontent, you should genuinely appreciate and enjoy the man in your life. If the thought of your boo brings up feelings of ambivalence or neutrality, you might be dealing with the wrong fella.

2) He Actually Makes You Feel Bad: It’s one thing to find a man unremarkable, but if the idea of your man turns you OFF, then you need a new man. And if this guy makes it his business to put you down or treat you cruelly in any other way, then you may be dealing with an abuser. Anyone who treats you with malcontent or disrespect has no place in your life. Let him go.

3) He Doesn’t Treat You The Way You Wish To Be Treated: Speaking of how he does you when he does you how he does…even if the treatment you get isn’t necessarily ‘bad’, if it isn’t what you want from a man, it might as well be. For example, if you like for a man to treat you as a total equal, you might not do well with the man who wants to spoil you like a princess. If you want a sensitive man who attends to even your most trivial worries, then the strong, silent and uncommunicative gent might not work for you. That doesn’t mean that you should be above checking your expectations and questioning how reasonable they are, but you don’t want to waste your time (or anyone else’s) if they can’t provide what you want from a partner.

4) Nobody Else Seems To Approve: Now, while friends and family can be some straight up haters when it comes to even a wonderful mate, if NO ONE in your life is willing to cosign the relationship…this may be worth exploring. Why don’t they like him? Is it the way he speaks to you? Do they feel like you are using him (or vice versa)? Does he have a checkered past, or worse, a checkered present? If your peoples’ reasons for voting ‘no’ on your beau are sound, then you should give them some serious thought. Trust me, if your mama saw good ole Tommy on http://www.thugginluvin.com, she’s not hating…

5) You Can’t Stop Your Wandering Eye: Even the happiest woman can recognize other fine men in her space. She may even occasionally fantasize about doing some extra-curricular activity here and there. However, if you feel that you are constantly worrying over men other than the one you’re with, then you might not be happy enough at home. If that’s the case, you may wish to consider bouncing before you make a move that can hurt you both.

6) He Bores You: Love isn’t exciting every day; a wise man told me that even the best relationships may resemble an old, comfortable pair of socks over time. However, if you find that your boo is dry as toast more often than not, then you probably aren’t with the right person.

7) You Hate His Interests: The Feeling Is Mutual: A fervent D.I.Y-er can peacefully co-exist with a sports fanatic even if they have no interest in participating in each other’s activities. But if the things that he does actually bother or annoy you, then you might not be able to make this work. Even the girlfriend who hates basketball should be cool with sitting through some games, just as he should be down to drive you to the craft store and hold some sticks in place so you can finish your birdhouse. If you can’t support one another’s passions enough to at least agree to give each other space to engage them in peace, no bueno.

8) You Don’t See A Future With Him: Hey, Mr. Right Now is more than sufficient if you BOTH are cool with having a little fun. But if you are ready for something of significance and he’s clearly not it…well, he ain’t it! Don’t prolong the inevitable or cause either of you any unnecessary pain by trying to put a square peg in a round hole.

9) He ‘s Not Trustworthy: No matter how much you may like someone, if he doesn’t deserve your trust…if he misrepresents his actions, doesn’t make time for you or seems guarded about significant portions of his life, then you are more likely than not dealing with Mr. Wrongy McWrongerton.

What did we leave out? What are some of the other signs that your man ain’t the one? Sound off!

How to Find Inspiration When You’re Feeling Down

Posted in Dating, Entertainment, Female's, HELP, iBelieve, Inspiration, Life, Love, Men, Music, Poetry, relationship, Social Trend, women on January 17, 2011 by tokyosparkz

There are seasons in life, where troubles and trials appear to be overwhelming.   These times of struggle are not age, race or gender-specific.  For some individuals, they fortunately have a small cadre of supporters to help them weather these temporary storms.  For others, they are forced to play solitaire and deal with these times alone.  In either case, inspiration is an essential process to help take off the blues and to replace them with garments of joy and happiness.  Inspiration is a very robust term, but I think that most would agree that it is a process whereby our minds and/or emotions receive provocation to perform at a higher or a more creative level.  Genuine inspiration can lift our spirits and enable us to do things out of the ordinary.

Oftentimes, individuals think that they cannot find any inspiration in life, but there are many small things that you can do to brighten your day and to reach toward new heights.  Here are at least eight little, inexpensive things you can start doing to inspire yourself.  Importantly, this is not an all-inclusive list of actions.

Go for a nature walk. Taking a walk along a peaceful nature trail, especially with beautiful autumn colors manifesting across the country, can be very refreshing.  Alternatively, a stroll to a nearby botanical garden can also prove helpful in enlivening a sore soul.  When you’re feeling down, brisk air and the beautiful aesthetics of nature may be just what you need.

Visit some new places. Sometimes, the busyness of life prevents individuals from experiencing new places.  Whether it’s a museum, art gallery, health foods store, outdoor theater or restaurant, give it a try.  Visiting new places can certainly prove beneficial in lifting your spirits.

Read inspirational literature. Whether it’s reading a sacred text or inspirational literature from one of your favorite authors, take a little bit time to read some pages to improve your pensive state of mind.  Alternatively, a book of daily inspirational quotes may prove beneficial.  If you are not into inspirational quotes, then motivational poetry can prove helpful.

Meet new people. Oftentimes, certain individuals in our everyday microcosm can try to bring you down.  Hence, it could prove profitable to remove toxic people from your life and replace them with positive people who will exhort you toward a better life.  Meeting new, encouraging people at a place of interest can be very rewarding.

Encourage others. Even when you are feeling down, it is still beneficial to try to offer someone else an encouraging word or a smile.  Sometimes, seeing how we have positively impacted another person’s life is just what we need to lift our spirits as we endure our trials.

Pray for inspiration. Prayer is often forgotten as an excellent weapon to combat the blues.  Spending some time by yourself and praying for inspiration and a better disposition and countenance can be just what you need.  Countless individuals from around the world can attest to the wonderful power of prayer.

Listen to some inspirational music. Whether it’s John Legend, Common, Mary J. Blige, Jill Scott, Beethoven, Mozart, John Coltrane, Nina Simone, Marvin Sapp or Yolanda Adams, music is a powerful force relative to inspiration.  Taking a few moments of your time to listen to beautiful musicianship and profound lyricism can certainly boost a weary soul.  There is probably a song in your library that pertains to your situation.

Watch inspirational and/or humorous movies. Laughter is good for the soul.  Oftentimes, watching one of your favorite comedians- whether it’s Kevin Hart, Cedric the Entertainer or Mike Epps- can help lift one’s spirit.  If you are not into comedy, then watching an inspirational movie may prove profitable.

Six Stupendous Reasons Why You Should Remain Single

Posted in Dating, Female's, Life, Men, relationship on January 8, 2011 by tokyosparkz

Another great post by Mr. Blogxilla, enjoy!

Are you currently in a relationship? Do you simply have a cut buddy? Is someone pressuring you to get into a relationship? With Valentine’s Day quickly approaching I’m here to tell you why it’s a good idea to say single. So while the majority of people are getting ready for love, and your local Walgreens, Rite-Aid or Daune Reade will transform into a one stop shop for candy hearts, teddy bears and flowers I’m here to give you 5 well thought out reasons why you should stay single.

  • Money Is Still Important: It’s a recession and no matter how much money you have, if you’re in a relationship you’ll have to drop serious bread. I’m not even talking about giving them money, I’m more or less talking about how much money it takes to stay fresh. When you have someone special in your life you got to be fancy. You know hair done, nail done every thing did. Then when you add in the fact that relationship get serious and next thing you know your lover is telling you how to spend your money.
  • Nagging and Moods: While I firmly believe women nag better than anyone, let’s keep it real men are the new bitches. These days men nag and complain about everything. Why are you talking to dudes on twitter? Why are your pants so tight, why you going to the club…  If you’re single you don’t have to deal with anyone nagging.
  • More Time To Do Cool Shit: When you’re in a relationship things are just different. A concert thrown by your favorite radio station is completely different when you go with your friends than when you go with your boo. While you may have fun, it’s just not the same.
  • Why Buy The Cow When You Can Still Get The Milk: You don’t have to be in a relationship to have sex, or experience Valentine’s Day. The best part of Valentine’s Day might be all the single’s party. Filled with people who are trying to hook up. After spending the entire day watching the people in relationships be all lovely, chances are most people want to hook up. MILK!
  • Flirting: The best part of being single is that you can flirt with whoever you want. I mean it doesn’t really get better than that.
  • Gifts: You don’t have to buy anyone a gift. Inflation is real and chances are the person you’re with is going to want something super expensive. Video Game systems, Ipad, diamond rings. If you’re single you don’t have to buy anyone anything.

5 Orgasm Myths

Posted in Female's, Life, Love, Men with tags , on November 8, 2010 by tokyosparkz

Here’s five female orgasm myths:

All women want a G-spot orgasm

While it’s true that many women lust for G-spot orgasms, it’s a complete orgasm myth that all women desire such a thing. For many women, having the G-spot stimulated — even “correctly” — results in a sensation that can only be described as extremely uncomfortable. It can make a woman feel like she needs to urinate immediately, and that’s never fun. It can also cause her to feel pain, and not in a sexy S&M kind of way, either. In fact, the whole stimulating the G-spot thing can annoy some women to the point where it completely turns them off for the rest of the evening. Yes, some women love having their G-spot stimulated — but many don’t.

Women need a skilled partner to orgasm

Many men pride themselves on their ability to make a woman orgasm (and your skills are definitely appreciated), but the ultimate responsibility for a woman’s orgasm belongs to her. It’s perfectly normal for a woman to have difficulty achieving a vaginal orgasm — that’s why God invented the clitoris. Meaning: She can still achieve a fabulous orgasm even if her lover is a virgin with limited experience and know-how. A man’s efforts are certainly helpful, but if she’s not achieving orgasm she has no one to blame but herself. Additionally, many women suffer from performance anxiety just as men do. If a woman falls into this category, even the most skillful of men wouldn’t be able to make her orgasm, regardless of his efforts.

Women need to orgasm to enjoy themselves

This orgasm myth couldn’t be further from the truth. Sex feels good whether you have an orgasm or not, and when combined with the right level of intimacy, the experience can be immensely satisfying regardless of whether or not she climaxes. Many women even prefer foreplay to actual sex and orgasm. Why? Because, for some women kissing, hugging and caressing are more satisfying than anything you see in porn flicks. If you combine these acts of affection with slow and steady penetration, most women will be perfectly content at the end of your love session.

Vaginal orgasms are better than clitoral orgasms

This orgasm myth is a bit like comparing apples and oranges. OK, not exactly, but you get the idea. The basic point is this: Both are perfectly lovely and they can be equally satisfying. The only reason vaginal orgasms are regarded as the Holy Grail of ecstasy is how infrequently they occur. Statistically speaking, it’s estimated that 30% of women will never even experience one and only 30% do so with regularity. That means you have a very good chance of dating or marrying a woman who will never achieve a vaginal orgasm. Unfair as that may sound, clitoral orgasms are not to be taken lightly; they can be absolutely earth-shattering under the right circumstances, and some women prefer them. Clitoral orgasms are wonderful and there is no reason to pity a woman who hasn’t experienced an orgasm through vaginal stimulation.

Women can’t ejaculate

Anyone who still believes this orgasm myth has clearly never seen a good porn film. Women can definitely ejaculate, and some can do so more forcefully (and with more volume) than men. It’s a relatively new acknowledgment in the scientific community, so the research still leaves something to be desired, but there’s plenty of evidence to support the claim. We know that women ejaculate through the urethra, just like men. Female ejaculate contains the same substances male ejaculate contains, and it’s produced in the “female prostate” — an organ which is extremely similar to the male prostate, albeit smaller. Women seem to ejaculate primarily through direct stimulation of the G-spot (some scientists believe this is actually the urethral sponge), but not all women can or will experience ejaculation. So, if she doesn’t have a gushing end, don’t think she didn’t enjoy herself, just try again another time.