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(5) Songs to get you “In The Mood”

Posted in Dating, Entertainment, Female's, Inspiration, Life, Love, Men, Music, relationships, Sex, women with tags , , , , , , on August 4, 2011 by tokyosparkz

Track 1: In The Middle, Trey Songz

In this song Trey slowly seduces you with his words as he tells you what he wants. All you have to do is close your eyes and let the song work its magic.

Track 2: Slowly, Tank

The slick piano, sharp horns and the passion in Tank’s voice leave very little to the imagination. It’s.about.to. go.down. (Slowly.) This six minute song is full of peaks and valleys so intense it’s almost spiritual. Whether you’re just listening or are following the songs instructions you’ll be spent afterward. Make sure to hydrate.

Track 3: Seems like your ready, R. Kelly

i meannnn… this song really just speaks for itself. Im pretty sure most of us were born to songs like this.

Track 4: Freek’N You, Jodeci

Automatic Babymaker, if you’re not tryna get your freak on… dont even bother playing this song. This is perfect for that nite when you just cant get in the mood.

Track 5: Float, Anthony Hamilton

Listening to the strength of Anthony’s raspy alto, the pulsating bass line and the flawless harmony will have you wondering why your clothes are still on. The song starts slowly, builds climatically and then ends peacefully with instrumentals laced with heavy breathing and chuckling. Sound familiar?

5 Tired Excuses for Staying in Bad Relationships

Posted in Inspiration, Men, Money, Sex with tags , , , , , , , , , , , , on April 12, 2011 by tokyosparkz

By Natali Rivers

Let me preface this by saying, I get it. You go through the dizzying grind of club nights and lounges, blind dates and online profiles, the guy who your mama’s church friend’s co-worker thinks will be perfect for you–when you finally get a man who’s worth something, you hold onto him with crazy glue-like grip. However, the problem is that sometimes, these guys aren’t worth it. And before you tell me that I’m wrong, make sure the words out of your mouth won’t be one of the following…

“But he puts it down in the bedroom.”

Aah yes. One of my favorites. You have one of those men that make you sing sweet soprano symphonies in bed, so you stay with him despite the fact that he’s not good for you. Ladies, as much as carnal pleasure is amazing and important, you can’t allow that to be your main reason for staying with a man. There needs to be more substance behind your relationship in order to make it last.

“We’ve been together too long for me to leave him now.”

All I have to say to this is: It’s never too late. Relationships, including marriages unfortunately, are not unbreakable. The amount of time put in does not make the relationship stronger. In fact, it can wear you both down until there us nothing left but bitterness and animosity. You should never let it get to that point. It is the quality of the time put in that really matters, so if you find that your time with your man hasn’t been productive, maybe it’s time to break.

“But he has money!”

I’m not even going to spend too much time on this one because you should already know. Statements like this are straight off the Basketball Wives lineup and I’m not dealing with it. Now don’t get me wrong, financial security is important in a relationship, but it’s a problem when that’s the only thing keeping you there. Just think about this: would you want to be with that man if the well runs dry?

“But he really loves me.”

People say that love is a beautiful thing, but I prefer love can be a beautiful thing. Someone can tell you they love you until they’re blue in the face (and may even mean it), but if their actions say otherwise it’s time to reevaluate. Even trickier, perhaps your man shows you that he loves you, but your feelings aren’t the same. It ‘s going to feel horrible, but you have to let go. You deserve to feel the same joy that he experiences with you.


“But he has so much potential”

Girl, stop! You need a man not the Little Engine That Could. Find someone who is on your level or is nearly there. It may seem cool to be his guiding light now, but if that potential turns into nothing, you’ve wasted your time and earned yourself a puppy dog. Or on the flip side, some guys make it and drop you faster than you can blink. Weigh the options heavily before trapping yourself with someone who’s not going anywhere. Remember, you can’t change anyone until they are ready to change themselves.

Just.. Watch!

Posted in Art, Design, Female's, Inspiration, Life, Love, Men, relationship, Sex on January 29, 2011 by tokyosparkz

Nine Signs You’re With the Wrong Guy

Posted in Dating, Female's, HELP, iBelieve, Inspiration, Life, Love, Men, relationships, Sex, women on January 21, 2011 by tokyosparkz

Relationships may seem elusive or few and far between. However, there is no reason to stay in a losing situation just to say you aren’t alone. We often time ignore the signs of a bad partner because we don’t want to be alone or because we want something to work that really, well, shouldn’t. If you find any of the signs below in your relationship, chances are…you’re caught up in a ‘bad romance’.

1) He Doesn’t Make You Feel Good: Your partner should make you happy with his presence in your life more often than not.  While even the best couples have bad days, fights and moments of discontent, you should genuinely appreciate and enjoy the man in your life. If the thought of your boo brings up feelings of ambivalence or neutrality, you might be dealing with the wrong fella.

2) He Actually Makes You Feel Bad: It’s one thing to find a man unremarkable, but if the idea of your man turns you OFF, then you need a new man. And if this guy makes it his business to put you down or treat you cruelly in any other way, then you may be dealing with an abuser. Anyone who treats you with malcontent or disrespect has no place in your life. Let him go.

3) He Doesn’t Treat You The Way You Wish To Be Treated: Speaking of how he does you when he does you how he does…even if the treatment you get isn’t necessarily ‘bad’, if it isn’t what you want from a man, it might as well be. For example, if you like for a man to treat you as a total equal, you might not do well with the man who wants to spoil you like a princess. If you want a sensitive man who attends to even your most trivial worries, then the strong, silent and uncommunicative gent might not work for you. That doesn’t mean that you should be above checking your expectations and questioning how reasonable they are, but you don’t want to waste your time (or anyone else’s) if they can’t provide what you want from a partner.

4) Nobody Else Seems To Approve: Now, while friends and family can be some straight up haters when it comes to even a wonderful mate, if NO ONE in your life is willing to cosign the relationship…this may be worth exploring. Why don’t they like him? Is it the way he speaks to you? Do they feel like you are using him (or vice versa)? Does he have a checkered past, or worse, a checkered present? If your peoples’ reasons for voting ‘no’ on your beau are sound, then you should give them some serious thought. Trust me, if your mama saw good ole Tommy on http://www.thugginluvin.com, she’s not hating…

5) You Can’t Stop Your Wandering Eye: Even the happiest woman can recognize other fine men in her space. She may even occasionally fantasize about doing some extra-curricular activity here and there. However, if you feel that you are constantly worrying over men other than the one you’re with, then you might not be happy enough at home. If that’s the case, you may wish to consider bouncing before you make a move that can hurt you both.

6) He Bores You: Love isn’t exciting every day; a wise man told me that even the best relationships may resemble an old, comfortable pair of socks over time. However, if you find that your boo is dry as toast more often than not, then you probably aren’t with the right person.

7) You Hate His Interests: The Feeling Is Mutual: A fervent D.I.Y-er can peacefully co-exist with a sports fanatic even if they have no interest in participating in each other’s activities. But if the things that he does actually bother or annoy you, then you might not be able to make this work. Even the girlfriend who hates basketball should be cool with sitting through some games, just as he should be down to drive you to the craft store and hold some sticks in place so you can finish your birdhouse. If you can’t support one another’s passions enough to at least agree to give each other space to engage them in peace, no bueno.

8) You Don’t See A Future With Him: Hey, Mr. Right Now is more than sufficient if you BOTH are cool with having a little fun. But if you are ready for something of significance and he’s clearly not it…well, he ain’t it! Don’t prolong the inevitable or cause either of you any unnecessary pain by trying to put a square peg in a round hole.

9) He ‘s Not Trustworthy: No matter how much you may like someone, if he doesn’t deserve your trust…if he misrepresents his actions, doesn’t make time for you or seems guarded about significant portions of his life, then you are more likely than not dealing with Mr. Wrongy McWrongerton.

What did we leave out? What are some of the other signs that your man ain’t the one? Sound off!

I Can Tell When She’s Faking It, 6 Signs She Had An Orgasm

Posted in Dating, Inspiration, Life, Love, Men, relationships, Sex, women with tags on January 21, 2011 by tokyosparkz

Written by: Mr Blogxilla

Frankly, I don’t give a damn if a chick fakes it or not, but I can tell when if I put it down, or if I struck out, or I was just average. When you eff a woman good she will let you know without saying a word. Mainly because there are a few things that happen after amazing mind blowing sex or you just blow her back out.

Snuggie: If you eat it and beat it the right way chances are the girl will want to cuddle after sex. If she places her head on your chest or places her arm around your body chances are she loved how you made her feel. Now while this isn’t always a telltale sign that you put it down it at least means that she likes you.

Maka A Sandwich – Its just like training a dog how to do tricks, if you do something good you get a treat. That’s why if your boo rolls out of bed and into the kitchen and makes you a sandwich, or get you something to drink. It’s safe to say you did the damn thing. If they are too tired to move, and ask you to get up and get them something to eat or drink… That is also good. But if you hear “*expletive* get me sunthing to drink” You probably failed.

Weak: Your lover probably has a lot of pride and doesn’t want to let you know you got the best of them in bed, but you want to know and don’t want to ask… watch how they walk. If you did your thing she won’t be able to walk in a straight line or her knees will be so weak that she stumbles into the dresser and damn near breaks your mirror. True story.

Kool-Aid – Once after beating it up like Chris Brown on a February night, I had my chick smiling so hard I thought Heath Ledger had came back to life as a woman. (Pause) After having amazing sex, she’ll be so happy, shocked and surprised she got the good good, that it might take all night for her to wipe the smile off of her face.

Tears Of A Clown – Have you ever gave it to a girl so good that she started crying? I have and this was over the phone so you know it was good. Another time I was balls deep in this chick, I’m talking doing my thing. I pulled her hips closer as I hit it from behind, rubbed her cl*t and gave her the manxilla simultaneously, I gave her the D, pulled out and gave her the tongue and went back in with the ManXilla. I gave her body so much attention that I noticed her start to shake, felt her get wetter and I saw tears begin to pour from her eyes.

Put Her To Bed – After putting it on your lover, and they roll over and falls asleep. You must drain her, give her multiple orgasms, and a few smacks to send her nighty night. She’ll be so drained that all she can do is start snoring. No getting up to wash anything off, no sandwiches, no juice, or anything else. Just snores and little wet spots on her pillow because you put them to bed. Give them a good 15 minutes of rest and get busy again… If you can wake them again.

How to Find Inspiration When You’re Feeling Down

Posted in Dating, Entertainment, Female's, HELP, iBelieve, Inspiration, Life, Love, Men, Music, Poetry, relationship, Social Trend, women on January 17, 2011 by tokyosparkz

There are seasons in life, where troubles and trials appear to be overwhelming.   These times of struggle are not age, race or gender-specific.  For some individuals, they fortunately have a small cadre of supporters to help them weather these temporary storms.  For others, they are forced to play solitaire and deal with these times alone.  In either case, inspiration is an essential process to help take off the blues and to replace them with garments of joy and happiness.  Inspiration is a very robust term, but I think that most would agree that it is a process whereby our minds and/or emotions receive provocation to perform at a higher or a more creative level.  Genuine inspiration can lift our spirits and enable us to do things out of the ordinary.

Oftentimes, individuals think that they cannot find any inspiration in life, but there are many small things that you can do to brighten your day and to reach toward new heights.  Here are at least eight little, inexpensive things you can start doing to inspire yourself.  Importantly, this is not an all-inclusive list of actions.

Go for a nature walk. Taking a walk along a peaceful nature trail, especially with beautiful autumn colors manifesting across the country, can be very refreshing.  Alternatively, a stroll to a nearby botanical garden can also prove helpful in enlivening a sore soul.  When you’re feeling down, brisk air and the beautiful aesthetics of nature may be just what you need.

Visit some new places. Sometimes, the busyness of life prevents individuals from experiencing new places.  Whether it’s a museum, art gallery, health foods store, outdoor theater or restaurant, give it a try.  Visiting new places can certainly prove beneficial in lifting your spirits.

Read inspirational literature. Whether it’s reading a sacred text or inspirational literature from one of your favorite authors, take a little bit time to read some pages to improve your pensive state of mind.  Alternatively, a book of daily inspirational quotes may prove beneficial.  If you are not into inspirational quotes, then motivational poetry can prove helpful.

Meet new people. Oftentimes, certain individuals in our everyday microcosm can try to bring you down.  Hence, it could prove profitable to remove toxic people from your life and replace them with positive people who will exhort you toward a better life.  Meeting new, encouraging people at a place of interest can be very rewarding.

Encourage others. Even when you are feeling down, it is still beneficial to try to offer someone else an encouraging word or a smile.  Sometimes, seeing how we have positively impacted another person’s life is just what we need to lift our spirits as we endure our trials.

Pray for inspiration. Prayer is often forgotten as an excellent weapon to combat the blues.  Spending some time by yourself and praying for inspiration and a better disposition and countenance can be just what you need.  Countless individuals from around the world can attest to the wonderful power of prayer.

Listen to some inspirational music. Whether it’s John Legend, Common, Mary J. Blige, Jill Scott, Beethoven, Mozart, John Coltrane, Nina Simone, Marvin Sapp or Yolanda Adams, music is a powerful force relative to inspiration.  Taking a few moments of your time to listen to beautiful musicianship and profound lyricism can certainly boost a weary soul.  There is probably a song in your library that pertains to your situation.

Watch inspirational and/or humorous movies. Laughter is good for the soul.  Oftentimes, watching one of your favorite comedians- whether it’s Kevin Hart, Cedric the Entertainer or Mike Epps- can help lift one’s spirit.  If you are not into comedy, then watching an inspirational movie may prove profitable.

10 Things that Men Check Out About Women

Posted in Dating, Inspiration, Life, Men, relationships, Social Trend on January 8, 2011 by tokyosparkz

Men are smitten by different things: some are booty-ologists, some men are taken by long hair or a nice smile.  But if you’re missing a particular asset, that doesn’t leave you sexually bankrupt, because you never know what’s going to get that man going.  You can think of a man’s attraction to be like money in a bank account: It doesn’t matter if you fill it with five dollar bills, ten dollar bills or twenties, you just have to have a certain amount in the end.  So, even if a guy is a leg man, a woman with average legs might still get him by having a great smile, and a stellar personality.  Missing one thing doesn’t kill your sex appeal.  Here’s a short list of the things that men notice about women.  You may know some of this already, but you’ve never heard it quite like this:

1) The size of the badonk-adonk
The black man’s love affair with the booty probably goes back thousands of years.  We write songs about it, we dream about it, we talk about it and we always take a peak at you as you’re walking away (like a mandatory booty check).  If you don’t have the booty, all is not lost though, since you may catch your man with something else.

2)  The breast-asiz

I have no idea why men have a fascination with a woman’s breasts, but “the boobies” are sure-fire conversation starters at any social gathering. Some men like them as large as possible, while others just want to know that you have them.  We don’t quite know what we will do with them, but we just want them, period.  Unfortunately, the less endowed women of the world are stuck with the same embarrassment that men feel when women make fun of the size of a man’s baby-maker.   But in the same vein, a lot of gorgeous women are not so well endowed, and still get lots of play.

3) What beautiful hair you have!

There’s a reason women will go bankrupt taking care of their hair.  Hair, for women, gives them the strength of their sex appeal.  You can rock it short, long, curly, straight or nappy, as long as you have your own personal swag.  Just find a man with tastes that match what you’re wearing.  You also know by now that men are always peeking.

4) What do you use those lips for anyway?

Thick, juicy lips are always nice on a woman, especially a black one.  Angelina Jolie gets major props for her big lips, but the truth is that black women possess lips like no other (so Angelina is just a substitute for the real thing).  Nice, full lips can get a man’s mind going places that it probably shouldn’t go and may get you on his radar.

5) The eyes have it

There’s nothing more exciting than a woman’s eyes.  A woman’s eyes can be the highway to her soul.  If you’re working the eyes, you might have us hypnotized like five-year olds watching the Disney Channel.

6) Smiles for miles

A smiling, happy, inviting woman can be the sexiest thing in the world.  On the flip, a snarling, mean-looking woman reminds us of our angry, overweight kindergarten teacher who wasn’t getting enough sex.  If you’ve got a nice smile, use it at every available opportunity.  It can make the right man fall in love with you.

7) Beauty is only skin deep. What kind of person are you?

Opinions on this can vary, but personally, I think that a woman who is ugly on the inside can end up nullifying every ounce of her beauty.  Men hope women are going to be nice and engaging, not cold and deceptive.  In fact, the ugliest woman in the world is the one who thinks she can have whatever she wants because she’s so fine.  A little kindness goes a long way, so make sure you’re a whole and complete human being.

8. Are you down for whatever?

Being “down for whatever” is another way of asking if you are loyal.  In a world where most men have enemies to fight on a daily basis, a loyal woman becomes an incredibly valuable asset to that person’s life.  If you are a fly-by-night woman who runs off when times get tough, you’re not worth the time of a relationship, and damn sure aren’t cut out for marriage.

9) What is your “skill set”?

By “skill set,” I’m not talking about skills you can put on a resume.  I’m talking about the “skillz”…..the stuff you can’t really talk about in public.  Even if a woman doesn’t look that good physically, if she can make a dude’s toes curl, she has a good chance of being the one he wants.  Men are physical creatures, and we can’t apologize for that.  If the sex is boring, we’re out.

10) Let me see your legs again?
While the legs don’t tend to have the same appeal as the badonk-adonk, they can make a difference.  Some men like thick, cornbread-eatin legs, and some men like the long, slinky legs that can wrap around your torso.  No matter what the man ends up liking about your legs, they can become the bread and butter to get your man to want you.